Today was the best day

I had a chance to play hooky from work today.  Our normal daycare provider needed the day off and we don’t have an alternate place for our Bug to go on days like this so I used a sick day to be with him.   Talk about my true bliss.  I got a chance to live out the dream in my head of being a full time at home mommy for the day.  I am not certain I would actually be a good stay at home mom if the truth be told…

I am proud to say that I completed my first Oprah and Deepak free 21 day meditation practice this month.  I’ve really embraced the idea of meditation and I am continuing this mindfulness by working on my mindset – trying to retrain my brain towards positivity, owning your attitude and thus your day.  Bug always flys into our room between 6:30 and 7:00 a.m. and states his presence… a tangible TA-DA – I’M HERE WORLD and I need to PEE – Can  you help me <insert either daddy or mommy depending on his mood that day>?!  He natually exudes the type of positivity that I am trying to harness.  Let me tell you, there is no better way to start the morning than getting to spend an extra hour in bed on a weekday snuggling, having tickling fits and playing hide & seek with your family before officially getting up.

We did eventually get out of bed and our PJs, brushed our teeth, and got dressed for the day.  Downstairs, we whipped up breakfast, played with Hot Wheels and watched Lego Batman.  I got laundry going and managed to get two full loads done.  We ventured outside to check the mail and discoved beautiful weather.   Since we didn’t have any set plans I asked if he’d like to go to the park and he almost came unglued!  His enthusiasm managed to coax his dad away from his work for a 30 minute break and he joined us on our little adventure.

At the park – our normally very hesitant little boy, OWNED THE SLIDE all by himself.  He marched right up the stairs and took a seat at the top of the big slide and down he went. We were elated for him.  He was having so much fun and was willing to try to climb up some of the other parts of the play structure which never happens.  My heart was so swollen and happy.  THIS.. this is the day that I have been holding in my minds eye for weeks, actually months now. Completely absorbed in my family – spending time together and completely electronics free.  I sadly don’t have pictures to share because I forgot my phone at home and I’m ok with it.  We spent a good amount of time climbing and running then headed home.

Once we got back from the park, Bug helped me make some banana bread and finished up our slow cooker chicken noodle soup for our dinner tonight while his dad went back to work.  Once the bread was in the oven, I loaded him up to run errands with me.  We ran over to the vet to pick up food for Psyche.  Then off to pick up some Christmas and birthday presents for his cousins – with a pre-negotiated stop in the toy section to peruse all of the latest offerings.  We made a last stop to pick up some bubble tea and egg puffs for a snack and headed back home.

The rest of the night has been our usual routine – dinner, a few videos – more playing and then bath and bed time.  I will hold this day close to my heart.  We didn’t end up doing anything “special” per se and yet the whole day was special.

I hope you’ve had an amazing day too.

XO,

Rita

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Birthdays and deep thoughts

 One day very soon I will wake up a 39 year old.  That will be old to some and young to others.  I can’t do anything about it – a fact is a fact and time keeps marching on.  My birthday has never been something that I make a big deal of.  I think I may be changing my mind about that though – each one I get is a blessing – I see that now.  Too many don’t get as many as I’ve already had.
What strikes me most and something that has been on my mind since the calendar rolled over to August is that all the years ending in 9 are going to hit me pretty hard.  I lost my dad when he was only 59.5.  I am grateful to have gotten to the age where the adultness better known as the “I know it all –ness” had worn off and I was closer to his age than not.  I got to develop a solid relationship with him.  59.5 is young.  So young. It seems that I miss my dad more on my own birthday than I do on his birthday or on Father’s day.
The thoughts that flood my mind sound like this: If Dad knew at this age, that I am turning… 39that he only had 20.5 years left what would he have chosen to do?  Would it be different than how it played out?  Was he happy with what he was sowing?
I hope that my candle will last more than the next 20.5 years and yet nothing is guaranteed.  So, I ask myself – what is my intention for tomorrow and the day after and the next 20.5 years?  What kind of legacy have I already sown and what modifications do I want to make going forward?  What is important to me?  What lessons am I teaching my son? My nieces and nephew?  If I only get 20.5 more years, what do I want them to remember of me?
I remember my dad always telling me he loved me and that he was proud of me.  Of all the angst that I may have had growing up – those are two things that I  never lacked hearing from both of my parents.  That is what I remember of my dad.  Of course there are other things – my mantra came from my parents: Be the Best you can be.  The silly things like needing to get a snack at a gas station – because you can and it reminds me of any car ride I ever went on with my dad – beef jerky or a snickers bar… it was just part of the treat of going on a ride with him.
So as the days approach and I begin the final year of decade thirty this is what is on my mind.  I’m crafting the life I want to live one day at a time.  I won’t lie that I’ve spent more time thinking about this since my dad passed away than ever before.  I try really hard not to regret – to embrace what I’ve done in my life and learn the lessons.  I am learning to spend my time intentionally.
XO,
Rita
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A Nap with my Little Love

I’ve been struggling with learning to slow down.  Maybe it is a mindset that I idealize yet can’t actually adopt.  I’m working on it and today, TODAY is one for the record books for me.

Our son woke up and started yelling commands out around 6:45 a.m. We managed to stall him until 7:30 with loud exchanges parried across the hall.  These are an absolute normal occurance every weekend and it brings a smile to my face despite the inssesant “Mama, Mommy, Mas” that he fires off in any given five minute span.  So we got up and got moving around the house…cleaning bathrooms and floors, cooking breakfast, playing legos, washing and putting dishes away all with Masha and Bear episodes playing in the background.  A fairly typical weekend day for us.

We usually have issues getting nap time in on the weekends, time gets away from us and before we know it we’ve missed the golden window.  Not today…I made it a point to go upstairs and get Bug down for a nap.  What actually happened is that I got to take a nap with him.  Talk about slowing down.  Deep breath.  I’m currently writing this while he continues to snooze. My heart is swollen right now.  THIS is life. A nap with my Little Love on a beautiful spring Sunday.

My hope is that I can forge a path that will allow me to work from home so that I can enjoy being his mommy more, a wife more, me more.  I’m on the verge of a new calling and life path.  I’m determined and committed to a better way to live.  A slower pace, focused on a life I am wrapped up in – sharing encouragement, love and wellness.

For now, I’ll bask in the success of slowing down today.  One day at a time.
Xoxo,

Rita

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Detox

I start a 21 day mind, body, soul detox tomorrow.  Yoga, mindful eating and asking myself questions that require space and deep thoughts to answer.  I’m excited and nervous.  I know I’m on a precipice and I will be changed after this. I’ve been headed this direction for some time now.  It feels like it’s time, my body is craving some kind of change, my mind needs a challenge and my soul, well my soul is always searching, learning, adapting and growing.

My thoughts have been leaning towards a need to feel fulfilled.  I will never risk security (physical or financial) for my family in pursuit of my need for fulfillment.  It is sad to hear that in such a raw statement but it is true.  I think so many of us relate to this in reality…and that is where our journey in life veers off in a direction we can become bitter about.  I am not bitter, my journey thus far has been timed out and planned by a force far greater than I.  My journey has not made any sense to me at times yet I have landed in a place that makes all the pieces fit together just as they were intended to.

I’m not sure what fulfillment means to me just yet.  These are the thoughts that plague me.  I don’t allow myself enough space to dive deep to answer these questions and I need to.  Also, don’t mistake a need to feel fulfilled with an idea that I’m not feeling that way now.  Maybe, “more fulfilled” is a better way to describe what I’m looking for.

Let’s see what unfolds in the next several weeks. Shifts in perspectives and excavated dreams may be reborn.  I’m determined to LIVE and ENJOY my life – adding memories to the collection that my loved ones get to keep in their hearts of me long after this life is over.

XO,

Rita

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Whole 30 discoveries

I started and completed my very first Whole 30 in January of this year.  If you aren’t familiar with what that is, I recommend visiting www.Whole30.com.  They are the experts and will be able to best answer questions you may have.  In a nutshell, it is an eating plan that helps you eliminate preservatives, sugars and other possible food related allergens from your diet for at least 30 days.  The purpose of doing this is to allow your body to heal from consistent systemic inflammation. You can then SLOWLY reintroduce foods and pay attention to which foods cause you to not feel so great.  Sounds like fun right?

Oh man, this is much harder than it first appears.  It is not impossible to do but it is a challenge.  Reading lables, not eating any added sugars, no preservatives, no dairy, no legumes, no soy, no gluten, no grains…at first you wonder what the hell you just signed yourself up for.  When you start to read ladles especially. Good night batman- nothing is safe!  I should rephrase that not much that is processed is safe.

Fruit, veggies, meats, good fats and most importantly coffee are welcome.  The plan is to eat three meals and to eat enough at those meals to fill you up.  No calorie counting here, you have to listen to your body.

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Slow down

I am trying to slow down. Life has a pace that is hard to keep up with not just sometimes but most of the time. Work commitments, house upkeep, meal plans, routines -all necessary however the speed at which we tackle them all seems to have multiplied a thousand fold since I was a child.  I’m trying to  consciously recognize this and slow my pace down.  Thoughts of my dad flow in and around me reminding me that life is all too short and is intended to be memorable and enjoyed.

So, this weekend my little family of three stayed home.  No outside commitments or agendas.  We decided to work in the yard pulling weeds and cleaning up in preparation for spring to well, spring. Our little Bug was his curious self and as talkative as ever.  He did really well staying busy adding to his rock collection as his dad and I worked.

The next day, we made our way to a local park where after a dozen trips with mommy down the twirly slide, we finally managed to convince Bug that he was capable of going down by himself. He did it, just like a big boy and then proceeded to wear the path out down the slide.  It was at that point that I had a little reality check, he wasn’t going to be my small little Bug forever. It is a blessing and a curse for me to watch this child grow up, it stretches me in the best possible way. Thankfully he still wanted me to escort him to the top of the slide each time he went down. Little did he know that I needed it just as much as he needed to slide down by himself.

I want to remember these days which are so fleeting.  I want to be present and concious while he wants and needs my attention.  We played chase and ran around in a field enjoying the simple joy of hanging out with each other.  These are the days that lives are made of -play dates, silly games and monumental accomplishments like going down the slide by yourself.

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Hello again

I’ve been missing for two years.  The last post was where my life left off.  Lost and adrift trying to understand that my dad, who was only 59.5 years old was gone from this earth.  Instead of a first birthday celebration for our son, we buried my dad.

It is sobering to realize that we have managed to collect ourselves and move forward a little over two years now.  I don’t want to give the impression that that was easy, it wasn’t and isn’t. It is a daily thing, never over or completely done.  That isn’t the point of today’s post however.  That is a topic for another time.

Here we are today!  It’s good to be here, I’ve missed writing and expressing myself in this space. I’m picking up right where I left off because  I refuse to delete the old posts – they capture a time in my life and details that are easily forgotten. I deleted my entire first blog, Graceful Considerations which had a pretty good run for four years and have regretted it ever since. I bet it would be pretty funny to read about my single life shenanigans now.

At any rate, here we are.  How are you? How has life been treating you?  I’m looking forward to updating you on my life.  I hope you will wander around and stay for a bit.

Cheers,

Rita

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